Who knew that there are different attachment styles in a relationship? That your relationship with your caregiver determines them. And that, a relationship with your partner or anyone can be improved. I didn’t.
Curiosity is a miracle-working tool. While writing my book, a thought rowed through the ocean of thoughts, “If there are unhealthy attachments to people, places, animals, and things, then are there healthy attachments as well?”
To understand this, I Googled the query. The first article headlined read, “4 types of attachment style.” To confirm this, I scrolled down and found the same results. So, I opened the first article and a few more.
The articles were the explanation of research done by John Bowlby, a British psychiatrist, and Mary Ainsworth, an American psychologist. They shared the same theory. And the results were not so different.
According to both researchers, there are 4 types of attachment styles. And there the reason is rooted in one’s childhood. These styles affect the relationship in a good or bad way. However, an understanding of these four attachment styles gives you a clear understanding of how a relationship can be worked towards.
There are many ways to work on a relationship. Understanding this gives you an understanding of one’s attachment style. Once this is understood, one can have a better understanding of the self and their partner.
Each attachment style is rooted in one’s childhood. The cause of the relationship between the caregiver and a child. If the parent was available during hard times, during emotional times. Did the parent practice physical touch? Or was it avoided? Did the parent ignore the child or not?
Knowing the attachment style of your partner will help you see clearly how you act when a certain situation arises. With this knowledge, a relationship can be healed and made better as well.
Phew, that’s good news!!!
Here are the four attachment styles:
1. Secure attachment.
2. Ambivalent attachment.
3. Avoidant attachment.
4. Disorganised attachment.
This is the first part of knowing attachment styles. In the next article, you will find what these attachment styles specify.
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