Never Make Assumptions
The third agreement speaks in simple words how our thoughts, if not monitored, can shuffle the nature of a relationship. And the agreement is never too make assumptions.
A simple agreement. But is it easy to follow?
A very good example to explain the agreement is this. You see someone you like walking past you. They wave at you. And soon there are scenarios building up in your mind, “Does ahe like me.” “Or does he know that I like him.” and so on.
This, again, is called Mitote, a crowded market.
So, Miguel Ruiz gives an answer to the question popping in your mind right now and that is, “How do I stop making assumptions?”
You cannot stop making assumptions. But what you can do instead is ask questions until you understand thoroughly.
Making assumptions also creates clutter in a relationship. Ask and tell are the most important ways to untangle the mind and the string of questions.
Assumptions don’t only end between people. It is present with oneself as well. And this assumptions are our thoughts, like explained before, they are, “Am I good looking?”, “I can do it.” And so on. They are assumptions about the self.
These assumptions can be nullified by questioning and gathering facts without thinking emotionally.
To communicate healthily, you must learn to ask, tell and know the facts. Finally, it is the choice of the person whether he/she wants to answer or not. And so is yours.
Last words, never make assumptions. Asking is better than keeping it in the mind. And if you follow the first agreement, being impeccable with your word, you’ll never be ashamed of who you are.
Hope you learn something from this article and any suggestions or questions are welcomed.
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