The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it.
Nicholas Sparks
Love, a word that people fear. Sharing, caring and showing your emotions are all part of the word love. And a few are willing to work for it. See, only one side of the love has been shown to the world. The side where a couple lives happily, or where their parents care for their children unconditionally.
And this is true. You love your kids unconditionally; you are a happy couple. But that is not all that is there for love.
Everyone knows love requires patience, sacrifice, understanding, and time. But they forget one thing, love is a selfish habit that makes relationships stronger. And this is what I experienced.
My mornings started as usual. Waking up, brush my teeth, and take a shower. A short routine to work on. But this short routine had every worry about my future. My Head getting heavy and my heart, pounding fast.
This, I had become used to. But this morning, today I experienced something different and so bold and strong that I felt liberated.
From a young age, my family had good expectations of me. He’ll make us proud. He is so talented and so on. And I am smart and talented. They also had one more expectation: getting my post-graduation certification.
And here I was, a drop-out with low self-confidence. I had gotten my mind into thinking that people don’t care, even my parents, if my mental health gets in weaker.
But this all changed today when I cried in front of my mom because I had low self-confidence. And I shared everything that made me feel insecure about myself. And it turned out to help me out in becoming more confident and a little liberated.
For years, I suppressed what I felt. For years, I told myself that I will make it out, that I will, in solitary, find my way out. But this never happened.
To become confident and liberated, you have to face what you have inside you. Accepting that you are sad, unhappy, miserable, or confused is the strongest thing to do. And sharing it with someone close opens up your doors to new possibilities.
So, this is what happens when you open up. When you accept whatever, you feel:
You get more confident. How?
Accepting what you feel and feeling those emotions nakedly is building confidence. You know that you will have these emotions because you are human. But avoiding them is what non-confident people do. Cry if you want to, but never keep suppressing it.
You feel free. Suppressing those emotions in time builds up and weighs you down. And when those gates have opened the emotions that you were holding back flood out making you feel free.
You focus more on the good and optimistic part of the world. Now, because they are opened and the emotions are flooded out, you have the chance to work on your goals, your strengths and your dreams.
Holding back your emotions will only hold you back. Those successful people, all have someone with whom they can talk. So, what’s stopping us from experiencing our emotions.
Holding back emotions will only make you focus on them. So, let them fly free. It is difficult at first. But taking that risk to understand yourself better and move forward, you must open those gates of flood and share what you truly feel.
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