The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.
Jordan Belfort
Yesterday, I was on a cruise ship in Goa. Everyone was enjoying their company and so was I. I was with my mom and my younger sister. It was a nice weather: cloudy and dark. A bit of rain and a few breeze. We were on the top deck, there were 3. The bottom from where we climb to the first – the stage enjoying performances, and the top – open and wide. And we had a corner that we had occupied.
The performances were staring so, we went down and found us a seat. As the performances went on and were over, the host asked for the crew members to join in for a group dance. The kind of ones that are completely rowdy. And this too went well.
But when it came to the boys, I didn’t choose to go. It wasn’t because I didn’t want to. It was because I just didn’t go. I made excuse about how it is about the group and not about an individual. Those who were dancing were having fun.
And this is when I realized that: when we make excuses, aren’t we making them as a choice to not to do some thing.
Because I am making the excuse about a group dance. But aren’t I only making a choice. And this happens with everyone.
When we make an excuse, we make a choice to not do something. And it is never because we don’t have the things we need, or because someone else has it better. It is because we just chose to not do it.
Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!
Steve Maraboli – Unapologetically You.
Try this the next time:
- When you make an excuse, try thinking really hard. Do you really don’t have it. Or you do have it and you still aren’t doing it because you are afraid about what people would say.
- Then, when you find out what you are doing, take on the responsibility. Tell yourself, “You are choosing to not to do that thing.”
- This is wen it get clear and then you really have a choice. Whether you do the thing or not.
- Take responsibility and it gets easy.
And I didn’t choose to dance on that floor that night. So, whenever you find yourself making excuses again, just ask yourself, “Is this really the problem?”
And let me know if this helps you. And if it doesn’t, let me know and we can work on it together.
Life Design 