Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.
Steve Maraboli
Mindset! A word used so often that people really lose the meaning of it. The meaning used so often that it becomes only an outer shell to be changed.
I had a broke mindset. And maybe, I still have it. Because it is on this day that I understood that the real problem that I had was me. I may have written and talked about good things. But my mindset was that of a broke. And it was my subconscious thought.
Almost all of the times, I blamed my parents or the environment that I have.
And when the work is done on the outside, it doesn’t pay good reward. Even if I talked like I knew stuff, I was trying to do it to impress people. To let them know how perfect I am. And I have talked about this so many times and I hate it.
But the fact is, it really didn’t matter where I was and what I didn’t have. Because whatever I had, my mindset was broke.
And now that I know this for sure, I can’t complain because it is I, who must change.
Mind is a flexible mirror, adjust it, to see a better world.
Amit Ray
This is what my broke mindset was:
- My space should be the way I want: encouraging, positive. I was expecting people to change for me.
- I must do and act as if I am cool or as if I know what I am. And the fact is, I am just scared. I am weak because my mindset is. And my mindset is weak because I did things that made it that way.
- Showing fake confidence. When in real I was scared to question someone or get what I want because I cared what other people will think.
This are a few that I learned about me today. It really doesn’t matter how you live, what kind of clothes you wear or how you act tough. Because in the end if you are not courageous enough to even ask for what you want and take it, it’s all useless. You are not you. And this I have learned today.
So, how did I come to the conclusion that I had a broke mindset?
First of all, I read the book Mindset by Dr. Carol S. Dweck. It was hard realizing and accepting that I had a broke mindset.
But when I was out, I was not me. I was afraid of what people will say, I acted as I was confident and I didn’t ask for what I truly want.
Secondly, I focused on what was my fault. I compared myself to others. I acted strong. I behaved like I was perfect.
There’s nothing wrong with acting confident. The problem starts when you and I start acting confident just to show off or only on the outer side. Not because we want to get confident, but because we want show others that we are confident.
So, how to deal with a poor mindset and turn it into a growth mindset? How to get confident and trust and believe yourself?
Well, that’s an answer I have not found yet. But there is always an answer and it is you. So, dig in yourself, learn if you have a poor mindset. If, yes, question yourself how can you turn it into a growth mindset.
And help me, too, to grow a growth mindset.
Believe in yourself!
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