Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.
Deborah Reber
It was hard accepting – where I was wrong, what is the right thing to do and what is not necessary to think about.
It was for years that I didn’t accept my hard, brutal and heart-breaking truth.
And it’s true that once you accept the truth – the things that you are running from – are your life it becomes easy to move forward. To learn new things, to open yourself to new adventures and to possibilities.
It’s not easy, I agree. But it is worth it. Maybe I was just afraid of taking responsibility. Maybe I was afraid to get out of my comfort zone. Maybe I knew that I am more than what I am now. And accepting the truth that I was responsible for all the wrong decisions and learning that it is all on me, I feel responsible and also a duty to fulfill my potential.
It isn’t easy, though, now that you know the ways and the path for you. I am scared, but this is just what my life is because this is the path I chose: the path less travelled.
So, both of us coming at the crossroads, how can you or I can accept the hard truths?
- First, maybe you can start journaling. Write down questions that are hard to ask: What is the truth about me? What am I running from? What am I capable of?
Let your mind run wild. Don’t stop yourself from thinking hard and good. - Write everything down. If you don’t have the answers, ask harder and think harder.
- Next, thing you can do is, make a plan to make it right. If you have potential for art, take art classes. But remember one thing talent does not matter if there is no hard work put in it.
Now, that we know how to “our” truths, let’s face the things that need acceptance in our deeper life.
Accepting our past. The mistakes that others made, how things would have been if something different would have happened.
Time doesn’t heal emotional pain, you need to learn how to let go.
Roy T. Bennett
I had problems with my dad and my mom. Even with my sister. But soon I realized the things that bothered me were always the things that needed improvement in me. Like telling my mom to follow her dreams, or let go of the person that hurt her most, or first invest and then buy.
As I write this, I realize that it never was about them. It was me who was doing the mistake. I was not following my dream and I needed to do that. I was not letting go of my parents so that I can grow. And I was responsible for my wealth.
And the most hurtful thing I said was, “I never had a normal childhood.” But instead, it was a good childhood. My parents, although whatever reasons I made, gave me everything that a child can need. And so, I had to come to accept this hard truth.
Even while writing this, my gut twists inside me.
So, how I accepted this truth?
- I told my mom about how I felt about my childhood. And you too need to tell the person or thing that made you feel that way. It is important. Just tell them how you feel about that. Don’t accept anything from them.
- Just tell them. This will remove the first block about that person that you had. Then see what was good about that phase. What went right. What they did.
- After knowing the answers and questions, calm yourself. Cry if needed. Letting go of what you are holding is crucial and important.
- And then start working on yourself again. From the bottom to top.
With this, I conclude today’s post and I’ll be here, always, when needed.
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