In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself
Deepak Chopra
-Pietro Aretino
One of the toughest lesson I had have to learn over the past few days was letting go of the past. It’s not easy accepting whatever your past mistakes were, or what your parents did do and didn’t do, what friends you had and so on.
And it’s not only the past that we must let go – but also other things that hold us back.
What I had to let go to move on?
I had to let go of the fact that I didn’t have a great childhood. And that I would have been better.
I cried (not literally). But sometimes things hurt that may hold us back.
I’ve hadn’t many experiences where I remember holding on to the memory of a experience. I’ve taken a few lessons, sure. But holding on to anything hurts.
And in a literal way (like a dagger through my heart.)
So, how did I get let go of my past?
- At first I had to understand that something was holding me back. In my case, my past. How did I find it?
- By finding what I made me feel sad, miserable and discouraged.
- Then, I had to accept that it was in the past. Like literally, this time. And I can do nothing about it. (Sit down somewhere quite, where you would have peace. Take the past problem. Let it all out – your emotions, why it makes you sad, what would have been great. Then acceptance becomes easy)
- After accepting the fact that it’s in the past and nothing can be changed, you must feel like falling freely without a purpose.
- When you had your past, you had something to think about. But now that there is nothing to worry about or think about, you can focus on forgiving those that were holding you back.
- And now it’s time to focus on your goals and start working on them.
This won’t be easy at first. It took me years to realize what was hurting me so much. Years. But after realizing that expectations from my past were the culprit, I had to let go it to move forward. Now I knew what was the cause of that sad days and nights.
Then, it took me a week to understand the mistake I was making and to cure it. This, too, takes time.
But once you understand that the thing holding you back has nothing to do, you get responsible and accountable.
What happened in your past is not your concern. What matters the most is what you do if you want to get better.
It’s easy to to blame someone and stay where you are. And personally, I think, that’s sucks. That’s some bull-crap – staying where you are and not working on yourself.
So, next time you feel sad or angry, find out what’s making you feel that way. And let all your emotions out some place where you feel peace. And then you’ll be ready to let go of that, that
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